Taking Care of First Things First When we get on a commercial airplane, they have a safety demonstration. Usually we ignore it, but if you pay attention, you can learn something important about safety with your BPSO. As part of the demonstration, they show you how to use the oxygen mask. "In the event of cabin depressurization, the oxygen mask will automatically drop. Place the mask on yourself, and then help any children or others who need assistance." The message? You can’t help anyone else, even those we love deeply, if you haven’t fully assured your own safety and well-being first.
In our BP relationships, we can’t help our children, our significant other, or anyone else if we ourselves are a basket case. What Non isn’t a basket case from time to time? It’s a terribly disruptive and disorienting lifestyle. Get the oxygen out, breath deeply, then and only then can you think about helping your children, and maybe even your borderline significant other. What’s the oxygen? Well, that’s dependent upon your situation. It may be that a geographic solution is necessary, it may be that you need to work on stress reduction. Yoga, Kung Fu, meditation, prayer, chatting on the Internet, or whatever. It might be as simple as eating a piece of fruit every day. Whatever it is that you need to take care of yourself and get centered. You know what it is.
Just do it.
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